Because I Care Too Much Sometimes

I’m not morally superior to anyone.

I’ve made, and continue to make, monumental mistakes.

There are moments that stop me in my tracks — those wow, I really fucked up realizations that make your stomach drop. The kind where you have to look at yourself and admit, what I did wasn’t okay. It’s humbling. It’s uncomfortable. But I think that discomfort is what teaches us who we are — and who we want to be next time.

What matters to me isn’t perfection. It’s being able to take that step back and see the ripple effect:

“This is how my choices affected someone else.”

And then doing the work not to repeat it.

Why accountability matters to me

People sometimes mistake my focus on accountability as judgment, but it comes from a completely different place.

It comes from care.

When someone refuses to take accountability, I feel it deeply — maybe too deeply. I’ve always been someone who wants to look behind the curtain and say, Do you see what just happened? Not to shame, but to make sure the harm doesn’t keep spreading.

Part of that is because I know how blind spots work. We all have them. And I’d rather someone tell me directly — hey, that wasn’t okay — than have people whisper about me quietly. Because I can’t change what I don’t see.

And maybe, too, it’s because I’ve seen what happens when people get away with being cruel.

I was bullied most of my life. I know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of someone else’s unchecked ego — to be made to feel small just because someone else could.

So yes, sometimes I speak up to my own detriment.

Sometimes I can’t let things go when someone’s being a giant dick and pretending it doesn’t matter. Because it does matter.

What I believe

Everyone is equally valuable.

I don’t care about social status, job titles, or tax brackets.

Materialism doesn’t make you more worthy.

At the end of the day, the only thing that really separates us is how we treat people — especially when there’s nothing to gain.

So when I talk about accountability, it’s not because I think I’m better than anyone.

It’s because I know what it’s like to be hurt by people who never said sorry.

And I never want to become one of them.